I wanted to share with ya'll this article/essay/entry...whatever you want to call it....that I am doing in a contest sponsored by Modest Hand Maidens. I have known about this contest for a while, but as I wasn't sure of the direction the Lord wanted me to take with this subject, I kept the guidelines on my desk...and left it. However, yesterday afternoon, I felt God's leading, and I wrote it down. So, here it is.There is More to Modesty
As maidens, it can be very hard not to stereotype what modesty is or should be. We might look at a girl wearing capris and say, "She isn't in a skirt or dress; therefore, she isn't modest." Or we can see a long jumper and say the wearer is modest. We can make these same judgements in relation to hair, shoe height, even length of other garments. However, there is more to modesty than just dress code.
In fact, the Bible never says how long a maiden needs to wear her hair or skirts. To Christ, the dressing of a person's heart is of far greater importance than the dressing of a person's body. 1 Peter 3:3-4 read, "Do not let your adornment be merely outward--arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel--rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God." Now this verse doesn't mean a maiden cannot look nice. Esther went through beauty treatments, Ruth anointed herself before going to Boaz, and the Proverbs 31 woman was arrayed in fine linen and purple. The Lord has taken the time to mention these "styling sessions" in the Bible, so it obviously mattered to Him that we know what women wore. However, what was their heart wearing? We find Esther obeying what Mordecai and the king's eunuchs instructed. Ruth cared about Naomi's future, and the Proverbs 31 woman was the picture of servanthood and love. And when we read these women's stories, it is their character qualities that leave an impression, no in what they are clothed.
Besides 1 Peter, these are other verses that show God's instruction for maidens. Titus 2:5 is a good one. Among other exhortations, a maiden was told to be "discreet." So, by using discreet, quiet, and meek in other Bible translations, we can see the maiden is one who does not draw attention to herself. Instead, her actions speak and proclaim who she is. A young woman who might be dressed in decent, not form-fitting capris, and yet is loving, compassionate, and self denying more readily fulfills God's design than a long-skirted maiden who is harsh, lazy, and self-serving.
So, what is modesty? To me, it is a maidens who yes, has certain neckline and length requirements, but is more interested in lining up her life to God's plan and in following His path. It is hard to do the latter, perhaps even harder than finding clothes. =) Our flesh seeks to get its way and get the attention. When in a room of people, it is far easier to be the one whom everyone notices than it is to have a deep conversation with one person. It is a daily, hourly, minutely, battle to die to self, but by God's strength, we can! We have only to ask!
I am far from being a truly modest maiden. Sure, my clothes might be fine, but my heart isn't always "properly attired." Perhaps you feel the same way? I want to encourage you (as I remind myself) that the Lord is only a prayer away. When it seems so difficult to have a right attitude, or to play with a sibling when a book is beckoning us, let's cry to Him. He will take us through the "Refiner's Fire" as we humbly seek His face.
May we become maidens whose outfits, and actions, leave an indelible mark that future generations remember, just as Esther, Ruth, and Proverbs 31 do for us today. May we strife to never stereotype modesty by a person's attire anymore. May we remember there is more to modesty; may we look at the heart before we're quick to judge!
It was hard for me to not bring femininity into this. See, I wear skirts most of the time, but I don't see them as more modest than certain capris. I wear them because I want to show that I am a maiden, and skirts are a tangible way of femininity....but that's a post for another time!